Like I mentioned in my previous post, I had a really good discussion with some kasamas this weekend about the use of the word “Bitch”. I didn’t want to kill the flow of the conversation by playing this song from Lupe Fiasco, but it was definitely in the back of my mind. I’m definitely curious to hear the different critiques of this song.

What I love about Lupe’s music is that I almost always catch something new when I listen to it. The wordplay and the conceptualization really makes the listener think (unfortunately, not everyone likes thought provoking music. I’m not knocking those folks at all, I’m just stating the facts). For this song in particular, I love how it all ties together at the very end. That third verse is something else, yo.

Sure enough in this little world
the little boy meets one of those little girls
and He thinks She a “bad bitch” and She thinks she a “bad bitch”
He thinks disrespectfully and She thinks of that sexually
She got the wrong idea, He don’t wanna fuck her
He thinks She’s “bad” at being a “bitch” like his mother
“Mama never dress like that: come out the house, hot mess like that”
“Ass, titties, dressed like that. All out to impress like that”
Just like that, you see the fruit of the confusion
He caught in a Reality, She caught in an Illusion
“Bad” mean “good” to her, She really nice and smart
But “bad” mean “bad” to him, bitch don’t play your part
But “bitch” still bad to her if you say it the wrong way
But She think she a “bitch”, what a double entendre

Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there, and especially to my own. I had a Mother’s Day post, so it’s only fitting that I do one for today too.

I’m not saying our relationship has always been perfect, but it’s been pretty damn good over the years.  Now that I’m older and all grown up, I’m able to recognize/appreciate the sacrifices that he’s made as well as all the little things that my brothers and I might’ve taken for granted when we were younger.  When I was a kid, I thought he was a little stricter than some of my other friends’ dads, but I’m really thankful for it now because he and my mom instilled the discipline and work ethic that made us the men we are today. Don’t get it twisted though, he was a jokester back then and still is now. haha.

I think what I’m most thankful for is that he’s showed me what it means to be a good father and a husband so that if/when my time comes to be in those roles, then I’ll have a great template to work with.  He’s always treated my mom with the utmost respect and never got caught up in that macho-man mentality where the woman is subjected to a subservient role. From what I could tell growing up, it was truly an equal partnership and I can only hope to be half as good a husband and father that he is.

What I’ve really enjoyed over the last few years is how he’s really been able to open up, be more expressive, and even apologize for certain things he wishes he would’ve done differently.  After awhile, it’s easy to get stuck/comfortable in our ways, but he’s showed me that you can still maintain your sense of pride while also being open and receptive to change.

I can truly say that our relationship is stronger than it’s ever been — I know that I can talk to him about anything now. Earlier today, we covered the usual, but then the conversation switched to talking about love and relationships: expectations vs. reality, standards, etc.  A conversation like that probably wouldn’t have taken place 10 years ago, so it’s nice to see how we’ve both grown.

Well, Dad: for everything you’ve done and will to continue to do for us…Thank You.

(Yes, I’ll be sending him a link to this blog. lol).

P.S.
Dang…who’s that super cute kid on the left side of the picture! haha.

Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there, and especially to my own. I had a Mother’s Day post, so it’s only fitting that I do one for today too.

I’m not saying our relationship has always been perfect, but it’s been pretty damn good over the years. Now that I’m older and all grown up, I’m able to recognize/appreciate the sacrifices that he’s made as well as all the little things that my brothers and I might’ve taken for granted when we were younger. When I was a kid, I thought he was a little stricter than some of my other friends’ dads, but I’m really thankful for it now because he and my mom instilled the discipline and work ethic that made us the men we are today. Don’t get it twisted though, he was a jokester back then and still is now. haha.

I think what I’m most thankful for is that he’s showed me what it means to be a good father and a husband so that if/when my time comes to be in those roles, then I’ll have a great template to work with. He’s always treated my mom with the utmost respect and never got caught up in that macho-man mentality where the woman is subjected to a subservient role. From what I could tell growing up, it was truly an equal partnership and I can only hope to be half as good a husband and father that he is.

What I’ve really enjoyed over the last few years is how he’s really been able to open up, be more expressive, and even apologize for certain things he wishes he would’ve done differently. After awhile, it’s easy to get stuck/comfortable in our ways, but he’s showed me that you can still maintain your sense of pride while also being open and receptive to change.

I can truly say that our relationship is stronger than it’s ever been — I know that I can talk to him about anything now. Earlier today, we covered the usual, but then the conversation switched to talking about love and relationships: expectations vs. reality, standards, etc. A conversation like that probably wouldn’t have taken place 10 years ago, so it’s nice to see how we’ve both grown.

Well, Dad: for everything you’ve done and will to continue to do for us…Thank You.

(Yes, I’ll be sending him a link to this blog. lol).

P.S. Dang…who’s that super cute kid on the left side of the picture! haha.

beatrockmusic:

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

NEW VIDEO: Otayo Dubb “Let You Down”

song produced by MTK

video by Northbound Films

Beatrock Music 2012

magnolius:

Nas – Daughters (prod. No I.D.)

some classic sounding Nasir with an ode to daughters and the challenges of being a single father. No I.D comes through once again with a gritty soulful beat suiting the concept perfectly. “Life Is Good” drops July 17th.  

I’m feelin’ this song.

Although…I can’t exactly turn off my “critical” switch. There’s still that patriarchal double standard when it comes to raising sons vs. daughters. Nas says it himself:

When he date, he straight, chip off his own papa
When she date, we wait behind the door with the sawed off
Cause we think no one is good enough for our daughters

junnyjeenisfreedom:

Black Gold <3

1.) This video has me excited me for those summertime backyard boogies/BBQs and outdoor concerts

2.) I look forward to teaching my (future) kids the people’s history and not the lies that are taught in school — No History, No Self. Know History, Know Self.

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I wouldn’t want to be one of those overbearing stage parents, but I would love for my future kid(s) to have some sort of hip hop steez—whether it’s MCing, DJing, Dancing, Graff Skills, etc.

This is gangsta right here! I don&#8217;t believe there are bad kids, just bad parents. What do you think?

This is gangsta right here! I don’t believe there are bad kids, just bad parents. What do you think?

Followers…

I can’t remember if I’ve said this before on Twitter or Facebook, but with the increasing popularity of social networking sites and their emphasis on gaining “followers”, are there still any leaders out there?!?!

Does it really matter how many Followers we have? I don’t know the exact number on my Twitter, but I’d say about 60-70% of people/bots who are following me are only doing so because I mentioned a key word or because they’re expecting me to “Follow Back.” And it’s perfectly fine if you have legions of followers, but what gets me are the people who brag or need/receive validation from it. C’mon dude…really? That’s like those fools on MySpace who have 10,000+ “friends” (LMAO). Like Bambu said, “Don’t believe what the numbers on your MySpace say / half of those is fake profiles anyway.”

And one last thing before I end this rant: it’s not the end of the world if someone “un-follows” or if you get “de-friended”!!! LOL. I’m not directing this at anyone in particular because I see it all the time from people I don’t even know, but all I can say in the most soothing, Deep-Thoughts-by-Jack-Handy/Sounds-of-Nature-CD-you-find-in-Target tone of voice I know is, “Relaaaaax. Everything will be ok.” =) Seriously though…people have been damn near ready to go to war because they lost one Follower!! Instead of wasting your time and energy in starting another World War, how about asking someone to give you a HUG instead? haha.

An oldie but goodie from my MySpace page (I knew there was a reason why I didn&#8217;t delete that thing). I wish we could have more billboards like this&#8230;

An oldie but goodie from my MySpace page (I knew there was a reason why I didn’t delete that thing). I wish we could have more billboards like this…