Lupe Fiasco’s Bitch Bad

WOW. I posted this song when it first came out, but I’m really glad that Lupe put out a video for this. The sad thing is that it will likely get very little exposure on BET or MTV (even though this is from the MTV site).

Props to Murs for making a video for this.

Even though the song was released last October, the timing couldn’t have been better considering the recent Frank Ocean letter.

Like I mentioned in my previous post, I had a really good discussion with some kasamas this weekend about the use of the word “Bitch”. I didn’t want to kill the flow of the conversation by playing this song from Lupe Fiasco, but it was definitely in the back of my mind. I’m definitely curious to hear the different critiques of this song.

What I love about Lupe’s music is that I almost always catch something new when I listen to it. The wordplay and the conceptualization really makes the listener think (unfortunately, not everyone likes thought provoking music. I’m not knocking those folks at all, I’m just stating the facts). For this song in particular, I love how it all ties together at the very end. That third verse is something else, yo.

Sure enough in this little world
the little boy meets one of those little girls
and He thinks She a “bad bitch” and She thinks she a “bad bitch”
He thinks disrespectfully and She thinks of that sexually
She got the wrong idea, He don’t wanna fuck her
He thinks She’s “bad” at being a “bitch” like his mother
“Mama never dress like that: come out the house, hot mess like that”
“Ass, titties, dressed like that. All out to impress like that”
Just like that, you see the fruit of the confusion
He caught in a Reality, She caught in an Illusion
“Bad” mean “good” to her, She really nice and smart
But “bad” mean “bad” to him, bitch don’t play your part
But “bitch” still bad to her if you say it the wrong way
But She think she a “bitch”, what a double entendre


Nas – Daughters (prod. No I.D.)

some classic sounding Nasir with an ode to daughters and the challenges of being a single father. No I.D comes through once again with a gritty soulful beat suiting the concept perfectly. “Life Is Good” drops July 17th.  

I’m feelin’ this song.

Although…I can’t exactly turn off my “critical” switch. There’s still that patriarchal double standard when it comes to raising sons vs. daughters. Nas says it himself:

When he date, he straight, chip off his own papa
When she date, we wait behind the door with the sawed off
Cause we think no one is good enough for our daughters



yo the simpsons be droppin truth bombs sometimes.

forever will love the simpsons and their relevance to life

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International Women’s Day…

To all the women out there, Thank You. While I don’t want to take away from the significance of this specific day, this isn’t just a one time deal for me. It’s no exaggeration when I say that I’m extremely blessed to be surrounded by so many strong, resilient women and am reminded of this on an almost daily basis.

This is for the kasamas (comrades) who I organize with. These strong women have carried on the militant tradition and spirit of those that came before us and continue the fight for freedom. In addition to that, they’ll not only check a random dude for getting out of line, but they’ll also let the male kasamas know if we’re subconsciously exerting our own male privilege as well. It’s not in a way that’s meant to antagonize, but rather, to help us realize our shortcomings in this patriarchal society and work to become better people and organizers.

This is for my co-workers who, despite being in a sexist, hypocritical environment, will speak their minds and never hold back. Now although they don’t need me to play the role of Male Savior, the least I can do is get their back and let it be known that I don’t want any part of the “boys club” that I’m often invited into joining. This is no joke y’all — my actual manhood was called into question because I adamantly disagreed with some outdated, ass-backwards notion of gender roles in a relationship. Even though it was presented in a joking fashion, I know that the sentiment was still there, “Look here — let me tell you what it means to be a MAN.” To my female co-workers: you know I got your back!!

This is for my friends who’ve become extremely successful in their careers and did it because they earned it through hard work, not because they’re just another pretty face (as some of their male counterparts have implied).

This is for my aunt, who is not only a breast cancer survivor, but who recently got a kidney transplant after waiting for over ten years. She never gave up throughout the process and she’s still fighting to this day.

This is for both of my grandmothers, who were left with the tremendous task of raising all the kids while their husbands were forced to leave the Philippines in search of better work opportunities abroad. Although my grandfathers provided the financial support, the role that my grandmothers took on can never be overlooked.

This is for my mom. I will never be able to fully put into words what she means to me and how much of an impact she’s had in shaping the person that I am today. Whenever the weight of the world becomes too much to take on by myself, she’s always there to lighten the load and put things into perspective. Like I said in a song I wrote for her a few years ago, “even though most of the time it’s over the phone / it’s the sound of [her] voice that I associate with home.” She always has a way of making everything alright.

This is for all the strong, beautiful women out there. Thank You.


winning a grammy doesn’t mean a thing chris brown, doesn’t defy the fact that you remain set in your gendered, patriarchal ways and that you continue to perpetuate sexual violence through your musically packaged (corporate driven) language/image etc. 

and “this fuck it, im succeeding” trope doesn’t erase the fact that many young girls are caught up in the cycle of desensitizing rape culture, so this time its not about you at all

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When I ask my students at the beginning of my Men and Masculinity course about “real men,” I get responses like, “real men aren’t afraid to show affection,” or “real men like to dance,” or “real men can cry in public and not care what anyone else thinks.” My students want to subvert the traditional “sturdy oak” model of masculinity. They mean well. But all they’re doing is swapping one unattainable ideal for another. Just as “real women have curves” delegitimizes countless slim women, “real men aren’t afraid to cry” shames those men who for any number of reasons are awkward about public displays of emotion. The contemporary “real man” ideal presents itself as inclusive, but it’s just another cultural straitjacket. — (via hugoschwyzer)

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Tony Porter: A call to men

“I come to also look at this as this fear that we have as men, this fear that just has us paralyzed, holding us hostage to this man box. I can remember speaking to a 12 year-old boy, a football player, and I asked him, I said, “How would you feel if, in front of all the players, your coach told you you were playing like a girl?” Now I expected him to say something like, I’d be sad, I’d be mad, I’d be angry, or something like that. No, the boy said to me — the boy said to me, “It would destroy me.” And I said to myself, “God, if it would destroy him to be called a girl, what are we then teaching him about girls?”“

At TEDWomen, Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don’t “act like a man.” Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the “man box.”

(Tony Porter is an educator and activist who is internationally recognized for his effort to end violence against women.)

WORD. Let’s deconstruct and redefine what it really means to “man up”