Priorities…

I was reviewing the profile descriptions of some of my different social networking accounts and noticed how I used to list “MC” as one of the first things, then “Organizer” somewhere towards the end. I’ll always have that special place in my heart for (hip hop) music, but I’ve come to realize that being an organizer is something that’s so much more of a priority these days.

Yesterday, I was telling a friend that when it comes down to dating and relationships, I used to think that I could keep those things separate from the organizing work that I do, but it finally occurred to me that I don’t want that. I was lightweight dating someone recently, who was pretty cool for the most part, but there was just a certain level of understanding that wasn’t there. I’m not saying that a future partner has to be 100% in line with everything I do or believe in, but she just didn’t get why I spent so much time in meetings, conference calls, and events when it was only “volunteer work”. In her eyes, community organizing was the same thing as helping out with your local charity. Plus, she openly admitted to being “Americanized” and not having much interest in learning about her own roots and history. If you know me, or even if you’ve seen my other blog posts, then you know that’s a major red flag/turn off. Major fail, yo.

It’s interesting to look back on where my priorities were at the beginning of the year versus where they’re at now. In terms of a potential partner, what I thought I wanted then is almost the complete opposite of what I’m looking for now. Even with everything in general, my priorities have shifted and are a lot more focused. Let’s see how the next few months will unfold…

Yes, I actually created one of those e-cards.  If this goes viral, then know you saw it here first (not gonna lie, I’m kinda hoping it does).

Backstory: Last week I witnessed this dude approach some of my homegirls when we were at a sports bar watching the Laker game and all he said was, “Ay…can my group kick it wit ‘chall group?” My friends were sweet about it and politely declined the first few times, but he kept on persisting.  I was crackin’ up b/c he just couldn’t take a hint…until one of the girls said, “NO thank you.  We’re fine with who we’re with right now.  WTF?!  Who does that?”  He finally caught her drift and walked away, not in another area at the bar, but literally six feet away from where we were (awk-waaaard).

A few days later, I told another friend this story and asked about some of the worst/corniest pickup lines she’s ever heard.  Knowing that that’s not my steez, she asked me about for the cheesiest line I could think of and the one in this picture is the first thing that came to mind (though I guess it would be more for someone you already knew as opposed to someone you just met).

We laughed, but then she said, “Okay, but how far into the playoffs are we talking about?” This was a great question that eventually led to a whole breakdown of the different levels of “liking” someone. Maybe we’ll publish our groundbreaking results one day, but here are two of the main conclusions we drew:

1.) It’s one thing to miss a playoff game, but she must be one special girl to miss a Game 7 for (from the first round through the conference finals).

2.) If I were to miss Game 7 of the NBA FINALS, the one that determines who the champion would be, then she’s wifey material fo sho (though in an ideal world she wouldn’t put me in that position.  Or better yet, she’d be right there with me screaming at the TV). haha.

Random conversations: gotta love ‘em!!

Yes, I actually created one of those e-cards. If this goes viral, then know you saw it here first (not gonna lie, I’m kinda hoping it does).

Backstory: Last week I witnessed this dude approach some of my homegirls when we were at a sports bar watching the Laker game and all he said was, “Ay…can my group kick it wit ‘chall group?” My friends were sweet about it and politely declined the first few times, but he kept on persisting. I was crackin’ up b/c he just couldn’t take a hint…until one of the girls said, “NO thank you. We’re fine with who we’re with right now. WTF?! Who does that?” He finally caught her drift and walked away, not in another area at the bar, but literally six feet away from where we were (awk-waaaard).

A few days later, I told another friend this story and asked about some of the worst/corniest pickup lines she’s ever heard. Knowing that that’s not my steez, she asked me about for the cheesiest line I could think of and the one in this picture is the first thing that came to mind (though I guess it would be more for someone you already knew as opposed to someone you just met).

We laughed, but then she said, “Okay, but how far into the playoffs are we talking about?” This was a great question that eventually led to a whole breakdown of the different levels of “liking” someone. Maybe we’ll publish our groundbreaking results one day, but here are two of the main conclusions we drew:

1.) It’s one thing to miss a playoff game, but she must be one special girl to miss a Game 7 for (from the first round through the conference finals).

2.) If I were to miss Game 7 of the NBA FINALS, the one that determines who the champion would be, then she’s wifey material fo sho (though in an ideal world she wouldn’t put me in that position. Or better yet, she’d be right there with me screaming at the TV). haha.

Random conversations: gotta love ‘em!!

Friends…

how many of us have them?

This last week has been pretty damn fun if I may so myself. I saw a certain group of friends three times this last week, which is more than the previous two years combined. As we get older and more involved in our adult lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind and lose sight of the relationships we’ve established over the years.

It really does take a conscious effort to maintain relationships, which is what I’m actively working on right now (although I’m still slippin’ in certain areas and really need to step up on). I almost forgot how freakin’ fun and hilarious this specific group of people can be, not to mention all the inside jokes we’ve developed over the years.

Although tonight was a lot more subdued than Tuesday night at the Dodger game, it was still a good time. For my homegirls reading this: I’m sorry you couldn’t see “Tuesday Romeo”, but I had to take it easy tonight. haha.

I just spent the last few hours on the phone catching up with one of my homegirls who moved away about a year ago. We don’t talk that often, but when we do it reminds me that we have a good, solid friendship. Then it got me thinking of relationships/friendships that have dwindled away to the point that we’re now mere acquaintances. Regardless if it’s platonic or romantic, a long lasting bond requires a reciprocal amount of energy and time invested, or as Common put it, “If relationship is effort, I will match your work.” Whether it’s an unresolved conflict or two people just growing apart, I think this is something we can all relate to.

So here you go, folks…I present you with a song I recorded back in ‘07 dealing with this very topic. I was a little hesitant in sharing it because I don’t like my delivery back then (although it shows how I’ve grown from then ‘til now), but I can still appreciate the lyrics. This is one of my more personal songs, especially the 3rd verse…but that’s a whole new blog/story in itself.

If you want a free download of this song, send me a message in my Ask Box or at: facebook.com/committeemusic

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